Friday, June 06, 2008

Wasted relationship...

I did something I never thought I would do.
I stood up to my father.
I told him that I thought he failed as a father. I told him he was given six chances and he has screwed them up. I told him that he needs to wake up and try to do better.
I listened to his excuses, and I proved they were bullshit.
I told him that he needs to man it up and deal with life. I told him that he needs to seperate his problems from his being a father.
I told him that when you become a parent you are no longer allowed to run away from it all and hide. I told him that he has a responsibity and he needs to deal with it or admit failure and let someone else do his job.
I told him that I think he is weaker than I ever thought he was. I told him that I understand he is going through a lot of shit, but I still can't accept that as an excuse.
I told him that I don't see him capable of being my father in the sense that he will teach me anything... and that I am trying to think of some other way that I could consider him a father.
I told him that he broke me and crushed a lot of my thoughts, dreams, and hopes. I told him that I grew up thinking was an amazing person... but I came to realize he is lacking in too many areas...
I told him so much crap that hurt me.
I cried my eyes out as I said it to him.
He responded with his cold and aloof ways. I hated him then.
The next day he called to tell me that he will take my car to be fixed so that I do not have to deal with it.
Two days later he told me I could come pick up my car.
He was out with I friend. I met them at the restaurant. He hugged me and told me that what I said did affect him. He told me he loved me.
I started to tear up in the restaurant again.
I don't know if I cried because I wanted him to say that... or because deep inside my heart I felt it was too late.
I am not able to give this man anymore of myself. I am not able to view him or love him like I did before.
I cried because it is a wasted relationship...

2 Comments:

Blogger themarvandmonas said...

nora as long as people are alive, it's never too late.

it's never too late for anything.

let life happen, let your heart heal, let people, including yourself, have the courage to thrive once again.

you took a big step telling him, and he took a big one in turn.

as long as there is progress like this, as long as we are breathing and greet the sun with vitality and hope, there is no such thing as too late.

xoxo,
m

6/09/2008 5:48 AM  
Blogger Nora said...

He did take a step... but you know how he can immediatly revert to his cold and condescending ways... well that it what it feels like...
I dunno. I honestly think it is too late because I am not willing to try anymore... and I know he is not the type to try at all!
xoxo

6/13/2008 3:27 PM  

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