More questions answered....

These questions were not as easy as I thought they would be....
Thanks Mr. Not Typical for having me answer them....

1. What are your ambitions, things you hope to achieve in life and what are your goals?
Well... I want to be happy. That is my biggest goal. I want to be good at anything and everything that I do. I want to get my masters, I am still not sure if I want to do a business masters or education one. I want to study psychology too. I want to get married at some point, but not right now. I am too busy figuring myself out now to figure someone else out. I want to have a happy family when I have one. I think I want to write something. I always wanted to be a writer and for some reason I gave up on that.. so I want to accomplish that goal.
I am still trying to figure out if I want to continue teaching because I love it, or join the rat race because it would probably be the better career. When I figure that out I will set a goal for that...

2. What is marriage to you?
This is a very hard question. I do not feel like marriage is something I have to do. I think that marriage is a way of making life more whole. More complete. It is the feeling of total and consuming love that makes you want to share your life with this person. It is complete trust in a person.
It should only be a way to enjoy life more.
It is not a way of starting a family.. or means to a better economic position.
It is a promise to someone that you will do your best to make their life better and that they will do the same to yours.
I also think that marriage is a joint effort. I do not want to marry a guy that comes and pays the dowry and buys me a house and furnishes it. I do not want a list of things the guy gets and a list that I get. This is not marriage. Marriage is more like a full time job. It is something that both parties must be committed to working on. When it is right it works with you.. making life and the marriage easier.. but it is a job nonetheless.
You need to build and shape the marriage together. To work our asses off at marriage and life and after a while realizing that we are making it happen....


3. What are the traits that must be present in YOUR someone?
Well....
He needs to be honest, I hate liars and lying. When there is no trust the relationship might as well be over. If I cannot trust my partner this eats at me and causes so many problems. So.. he needs to be honest and trustworthy.
He needs to be smart. I don't mind listening to someone.. I just need to listen to him because I trust him and have faith that what he is saying is reasonable and right. I will never listen to a man because he is a man. I have to feel that he knows more than I do. The problem with this is that I am smart. I am not being arrogant. I just know that I need a guy who is smarter than I am so that I can trust him. Other than that, stupidity is such a turn off for me.
I do not think I could marry a man that is not funny. I do not want to marry a clown.. but a sense of humor makes a man attractive to me. If we cannot laugh together than life will suck. A life without laughter scares me....
He must be kind, generous, caring, understanding, respectable, dependable, and responsible. He needs to be attractive ... but I think I would prefer him not being drop dead gorgeous.

4. Do you think having a child (or conceiving one) in the first year of marriage is a must/obligation?
Definitely not.. I think that having a child so early puts too much strain on the marriage. When I have kids I want to be able to give them all of me. I want to make sure that I do my best at raising them. To be able to do this I would need to have a strong bond with my husband. We would need time to create that bond. We would need time to enjoy being married, so that we can enjoy parenthood together. We would need time to get to know each other. I think all this would be easier to accomplish if we postpone having children.

5. Are there any illnesses you suffer from?
Nope...

6. Are you social? Who are your friends?
I think i am very social. I love being around people. I love being with my friends, even if we are not doing anything. I like feeling that bond between friends. I like helping them. I like doing stupid things and making memories.
Not sure what is meant by who are your friends, I am assuming that we do not want a list of names...

7. What's your relationship with your parents/brothers/sisters?
My relationship with my parents:
My mother and I are very close. We have a pretty cool relationship. I am able to talk with her about anything and everything. She is definitely one of my role models.
My relationship with my father is difficult to describe. While I was growing up our relationship was not that great. Now our relationship is good. I know that he will always be there for me. I love it when he is here. There is just some weird barrier between us. At times I feel I do not know him very well and I do not know how to get to know him. Recently I have been seeing our relationship differently and I am hoping that I understand it and him better. Our relationship is also changing. I am enjoying it more now... he treats me like an adult. He tries to teach me things.. it is starting to become more normal and relaxed. I am enjoying this now.

My relationship with all my brothers and sisters is great. I love them all with my heart. My relationship with my half brothers and half sister is not as close as the relationship with my full brother and sister. I absolutely adore each and every one of them. We are able to joke with each other. We can make fun of each other. I know that they will be there to help me whenever I need help. I have learnt so much from both of them. They are also my role models.


8. What are your hobbies? How do you like to spend your free time?
I like hanging out with friends. I like reading. I love singing. I sound horrible.. I am always off key, but I sing anyway. I love travelling. I love being around children.
I spend my free time with friends mostly. I like writing also. Either here, in a journal, to my family.. I just like to write.


9. Do you do any voluntary/charity work?
Yes, I do. I enjoy it a lot too. I always feel great when I do things like that. I feel like I am stepping out of my protective bubble and seeing things a bit more clearly. Sometimes, it is the only way I know how to appreciate the things that I have.
I am not as active as I would like to be anymore. Last week I decided that I need to be a bit more active...

10. How would you feel if my mother or yours interfered in our relationship or life later?
Well.. Mr. Not Typical.. we haven't met or anything.. I am slightly scared that you would call it a relationship.. If you tell me that you love me I will run!! ;o)
Seriously, I have had my fair share and a bit more of mother-in-law issues. I do not like anyone interfering with a relationship. I think that the 2 people need to just figure things out alone.
I would not let my family interfere and I would expect that from my partner also. If he is not able to keep people from interfering then he would probably not be able to protect the relationship if he needed to. I think that would make me not feel safe in a relationship with him... So, I guess that I would not be able to be in a relationship if there was interference.
Now, I am not saying that they would not be involved. I am just expecting that they will not be the cause of any problems and that they will not think of themselves as a solution to any problems. They should not even try to give any solutions to problems.


Kareem, Lonely twin, and all you other people who are reading this.. now it is your turn! ;o)