Sunday, April 08, 2007

My Egyptian Soap Opera Life

My dad's Egypt vacation is almost over. Sadly, I am looking forward to his departure. I get too restless when I stay at home too long. I don't like dealing with my aunt and uncle and I have to because he is here now. I do not like the man that they make my father turn into.
I love my father with all my heart… I just love him less when he is surrounded by his family. I guess they put pressure on him to be the "good Egyptian father". I guess that is an oxymoron because he is a horrible father when he tries to do that.
He never has a reason for what he does or asks of me, and he gets upset when I point that out. I think he does not like being that fucked up Egyptian father either…
Well, I hope he does not like it. I really hope that it bothers him as much as it bothers me….
This vacation is ending with me giving him the silent treatment. I am not doing this out of a desire to argue. I am doing it out of my disappointment with him.
Yesterday they told me they want me to meet an "3rees" (potential groom). I said no. I don't want to get married like that. I don't want to feel like I am a monkey in a zoo attracting visitors. I am not a show that people can come watch and judge… I refused to meet him. My aunt insisted that I meet him. I refused again. She got mad at me. She thinks that my reasons are not valid, and that I am being stupid. I thanked her for he opinion and went about my day. She took my father out to visit my grandfather's grave and then to go visit their aunt.
I spent the whole day at home bored and bitter. I called and complained to a friend of mine. We decided to meet for coffee so he can cheer me up.
I call my father and tell him I am leaving. We got into a pointless fight. He gives me an early curfew to annoy me. Whatever, I decide not to fight. He will be gone soon and I don't want any issues.
As I am getting ready he calls me and tells me to come home an hour earlier because he needs to talk to me. I argue about it being impossible.
I go out. I meet my friend. I have a great time and am in an excellent mood.
As I am driving home I get lost… more lost than I have ever been. I want to cry!
Anyway, my friend figures out how to bring me back to civilization. He calms me down.
Well, I ended up going home 45 minutes late.
As I walk in worried about the argument my father and I will have I hear voices. I am relieved. A guest in the house means that we will not fight….
I help my aunt get the cake and drinks ready for the guests. I take them out to the guests. I expect to see my father's friends, but I was wrong.
It was the "3rees".
I was mad. I was disappointed.
I politely said hello and I gave my father the dirtiest look ever.
I sat and sent text messages from my phone the whole 5 minutes I was in the same room with them.
I got up and I left the room.
I know that I probably was a bitch.
I know that I could not do anything else. I could not hide my feelings of resent.
I was surprised that my father would do this. Somehow I know it was my aunt and uncle who told him that he should invite them over because I am an irrational child. I hope it was them. It is easier for me to hate them than it is for me to hate him.
I don't think that such a disregard for my feelings, opinions, or desires is a small thing.
That has been my life for the past 2 days.. and that is the reason my father and I are not talking now….
I wish things were different.
I wish I wasn't living an Egyptian soap opera…..

6 Comments:

Blogger Kathy said...

Nora
I am so sorry that you have to live this, just stand your ground and know that you are right! I love you!!!

4/08/2007 6:39 PM  
Blogger Nora said...

Don't feel too bad.. he is gona and all went well...
I love you too...
Hugs and kisses..

4/09/2007 12:51 PM  
Blogger Fadfadation said...

i guess your father just wants to as we say "yetamen 3aleky"...although i agree this way is not nice 7'ales.

ma3lesh....sam7y

4/09/2007 1:36 PM  
Blogger Nora said...

I know that his intentions are good. I know that he is trying to do what is best...
But the way he is doing it is horrible. It just proves that he doesn't know me or what is best for me... but I guess no child thinks their parents know them or know what is best for them. The circle of life....
Yeah, I am sure I will forgive him soon. Just need to vent and let time pass! ;o)

4/09/2007 2:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It seems all Egyptian mothers and fathers think like that. Even Italian ones who have lived in Egypt for long (my mom) :D

I think it's ur aunt and uncle you should be mad at...

4/22/2007 12:27 AM  
Blogger Nora said...

Well I am mad at my aunt and uncle all the time so it is cool...
I am less bitter with my father, but I am still not answering his calls.
I don't know why parents think that way.. it gets annoying...
So.. any new funny stories about the women your mom is choosing?
;o)

4/22/2007 5:56 PM  

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