Once upon a second time around...
I was talking with a friend about relationships. This person believes that it can never work a second time. I disagree. I think that if two people love eachother then they can make it work. Sometimes people just need to be away from each other to figure out what they miss about that person, to figure out what they loved about them, to figure out that they actually did love them.
Sometimes the realization that a relationship can be lost is incentive enough for a person to make changes and make it work. Sometimes losing someone can make you see what you did to chase them away. Sometimes losing someone can make you more honest with them and yourself...
My friend was not convinced. I think this friend just has not found someone worth going back to...
So, I am throwing this question out there to no one and everyone...
Do you think that relationships can work out a second time around?
posted by Nora @ 3:30 PM
7 Comments:
Only if the breakup was respectful, honest and sweet. I think if both people didn't humiliate or insult each other and left on a note of friendship than things can still be picked up. It never works out if feelings were hurt or resentment was harbored.
I agree about the humilition and insults part.
I do think that people can forgive when feelings are hurt. Someone's feelings always get hurt when there is a breakup.. I do agree that if it is done with repect and honesty that things can work out..
:o)
When you break up with someone and start moving on, you'll be less attached and will start to look at things more objectively. Sometimes you would realize that there were many bad/unhealthy things you overlooked while being attached but at other times like you said, you would remember what you loved about this person and will miss these things. I think that getting back to a person is really tricky but it happens and sometimes it proves to be successful.
I have this example but a really stupid one. you know the movie 'eternal sunshine of the spotless mind'? well it's my all time favourite. There was a time when I used to watch every single day. No kidding! So this one time I think after the millionth time of watching it I didn't feel a thing. I was actually bored of it. I freaked. So then I lent it to a friend and she had it for a long time and then I gave to this guy who had for some weeks. When I finally got it back I felt evrything again and more because it's been such a long time. It all came back to me again. That day I realized that if I ever enter in a long term relationship I would definitly have some time off (doesn't have to be a break up though)
that was a long comment heheh
hope it's useful
I do agree with all of the above, but i think it depends more on the reason for the break up, if it was related to something very important, no matter how peaceful, sweet or honest the break up was, nothing can bring them back together. Except 1 thing, self sacrifice. Silent observer, you're my kind of dude!! i love that movie, and i've seen it about 5 times so far. But you can't compare movies to relationships, because no matter how many times you watch a movie, it never changes but people do.
sorry silent observer, thought you were a dude!! i mean to say DUDETTE!! :D
Thanks guys!
:)
I am afraid they do not. People can either forget the incident or forgive the person. They can't do both - too difficult for a mortal. You can either forget the sin or forgive the person who has committed it. Consequently, something from the 1st round of the relationship will continue to exist during the 2nd round. That thing, that sad thing, being the reason why the relationship has not worked in the first time, will be the reason why it will not work ever again. As long as the virus is there, one is sick, right? In love, you keep viruses away, but once they are in, you are screwed, 'cause love-viruses does not die. Only forget and forgive combined can kill them, and unluckily, it is practically impossible to put forget and forgive in the same place.
If my girlfriend happened to spend a night in someone's bed, and I decided to give her a second chance, what would that make me? A true lover or an idiot? now I could forgive her, but I wouldn't forget that someone out there did fuck my girl. If I forgot that, I wouldn't be able to forgive my girl whose love and credibility would be ruined in my eyes.
Catch 22.
It is not making mistakes that is destroying this world, it is repeating them. A second round is simply a mistake being repeated less intentionally.
I respect hope, though. If hope reaches that certain level, I think a second chance may work in a way or another. I am talking about REAL hope here, the hope that breaks the laws.
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