Parents... the good and the bad.. and the poor little innocent children!!
I have a student in my class. When I started teaching this class I was warned about this girl by all the other teachers at the school. They told me that she was a liar, and like the Egyptian women. So, I started my first day of teaching the class a little prejudiced towards her. The smallest thing she would do would upset. I was not lenient with her.
Now I must say, she does all the things the teachers said; she lies, steals, doesn't do her homework, doesn't pay attention in class, she even started running her own little crime ring at school that spanned 3 different grades. (She handed out flyers to 3rd, 4th, and 5th graders telling them about the dish party we are having in school. She took money from these kids. Then she went and bought herself a shitload of food, candy and chocolate with this money.)
She was the one student I did not like being in my class.
Then I noticed that she was hugging and kissing me all the time. She did this with a lot of the women teachers at the school. Even the ones that she did not know. I wondered why she would hug women that she did not know. I started to hug her a bit more. To hold her when I talk to her. She really responded to this. For a short while her behavior even started to change.
Then I met her mother.... her mom does not give a shit about her. And her mom is the most important thing in her life. She wants nothing but her mom to notice her.
Seeing this brought back very painful memories of my, my brother and sister jumping through hoops trying to get the attention and love of my father. Now that I have my feet planted on the ground and I no longer jump through his hoops I was heartbroken for this child.
I know what she is going through.
Every bad behavior she has shown was something that either my sister, my brother, or I have done at some point trying to get my dads attention.
She even gets so proud of the small things that her mother does for her sometimes. The normal things that should be an everyday part of her life... but now seem so big to her. Like when she runs to me in the morning and asks if I like her hairdo... and with the biggest smile I have ever seen she tells me that her mommy did it for her. I want her to know that her mom should do it everyday.. and that her mom is a bitch!
I know I can never make this girl stop trying to get her mom's attention. but I promise that I will be there for her and make her feel like the amazing little girl that she is. I wish I could just hug her and let her not go through this shit. Not get her heart broken by a mom that doesn't care.... I hope that I can be a person that she knows cares about her. I wish I could take her and put her into the perfect world that she deserves to grow up in.
To all the parents who do not care about their children.. fuck you and fuck off!!
To all the others... hug your children now and often! Tell them you love them on a regular basis.
If you were lucky enough to feel loved by your parents tell them you love them now.
Mom, I love you and thank you.......
2 Comments:
Hi Nora!
I love you! and I feel bad for this little girl, I never could ubderstand how any parent could ignore a child.
Keep up the good work! and always try to show this girl she is special.
Love you always!
Mom
I will try.. but I know that no matter what I do it will not fill the gap she is feeling.
I just hope that she can feel how much I love her and care about her....
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